I hear it over and over—“It was going so great, and then she disappeared on me… why? What happened—we were having such a great time together. I’m tired of this happening—I want to date sexy women, but I want them to stick around. Do you have any dating tips for me?”

Yes, I do. Every time I talk to a guy who tells me this, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. So, I give him some dating tips to skyrocket his success with sexy women. Here are the most common ones:

Dating tip #1: Don’t date. Yes, that’s right—don’t date. Think about a traditional “date”—it’s full of pressure, awkwardness, evaluation and it just plain sucks. What do you do on a “traditional date?” Dinner, movie, kiss goodnight, she doesn’t return your calls. Or you have drinks, and try to “make your move,” and we all know where that ends up. Much better (and cheaper) to meet for coffee—it’s fun and relaxed with none of the normal dating expectations.

Dating tip #2: The less you do and say, the more she’s attracted to you. Most guys try to impress sexy women, or “lay a rap” on them. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she’ll begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more… now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one. This is a HUGE dating tip.

Dating tip #3 Be a “naughty little boy.” Another big dating tip. Remember the “class clown” in elementary school—the guy who was “cool and funny” all at the same time? When you’re talking to sexy women, make unexpected and mischievous comments, the kind that leave them thinking, “I can’t believe he just said that… but I like it.” This shows sexy women you’re NOT impressed by their looks, that you need to see more. This is so different from what they’re used to they can’t help but be attracted. I cannot emphasize the importance of this dating tip.

Dating tip #4 Avoid all canned pick up lines, “laying a rap,” or any type of “acting.” Sexy women have heard it all before, and as soon as you spout one, you’re instantly a JAG (just another guy). And JAG’s don’t get sexy women—remember this dating tip!

Dating tip #5 Sexy women are approached and hit on 20 to 30 times a day. This is their world—to get into it, you have to be different from the 20 guys

Dating tip #6 Look out for her tests. Sexy women (indeed, all women) will test you to see if you’ll stand up to them. If you can’t stand up to her, you can’t stand up for her. If she asks you to buy her things, that’s a test—and a perfect opportunity to be a “naughty little boy” (see Dating tip #3). Say something like, “What do I look like an ATM machine? You should buy ME something, just for the privilege of spending time with me. I like sexy women who buy me things!” This is said in a playful—yet firm—manner that lets her know you’re onto her. When you pass their tests, it drives sexy women wild with desire. Very important dating tip.

Dating tip #7 Date multiple sexy women at once, and make sure the others know about it. Sexy women love a man who is attractive to other sexy women, and will compete to “win you.” (Here’s another dating tip: for proof of this, read any good romance novel). If you want to settle down, you can choose one, but she will always know you’re desired by other sexy women—and in a strange way, this creates even more attraction for you. This dating tip really is a secret, but it works very well with sexy women.

OK, guys, that’s it for this article. Obviously there are lots of other dating tips, tricks and secrets to put to use, but if you pay attention to these dating tips, you’ll be a heckuva lot more successful with sexy women. Now, go re-read all the dating tips!

On with the fun…

-John Alanis, Dating Tips Master

“The King of Let ‘em Come to You”

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John Alanis is the author of “Secrets of Natural Attraction: How to Get Desirable, Beautiful Sexy women to Chase You.” He also publishes a daily “politically incorrect attraction and dating tips” newsletter that reveals how to get desirable, beautiful sexy women to approach men for a date first, no matter your looks, age or income. You can subscribe to John’s daily “sexy women approach you secrets” by going to www.womenapproachyou.com. Upon subscription, John immediately sends you five free “how to get beautiful, sexy women to approach you!” reports, chock full of “hidden secrets” dating tips.